"There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women."
Madeleine Albright, former US Ambassador to the UN
This famed 2006 quote rings all too true for many women, especially assistants, and we all know the behaviors. Since more than 50% of the world’s working population is female, this fact most definitely impacts how women work together.
However, the idea of women helping other women succeed in 2019 bumps up against the way we are socialized as young girls. Old habits of being competitive and adversarial with one another die very hard, but die they must because our world has changed.
There are now more women than men in the global workplace and more women than men earning college degrees. The messages women get loud and clear when we are young girls are steady, strong, and they stay. As in forever. Unless we fight hard against these deeply embedded messages and choose to turn off our default.
Default behaviors include viewing other women as the enemy, as adversaries, and as competitors. They also include seeking the approval of men, not making waves, not being too aggressive, and mandates to know our place and to not step on toes.
And of course they include harsh judgments and comparisons galore about physical appearance and worldly possessions. Without compelling strong evidence to the contrary, most women are completely unaware about why we behave the way we do.
The messages hurt us when we are girls and are even more destructive when we are adult women. They hold on with an ironclad grip and create conflict, paralysis, and pain. Obviously, all these behaviors bump up against the smarter ideas of women as mentors, collaborators, allies, and teammates. All women get sucked into the default unless we work hard to break the cycle of this rock-solid socialization and unconscious bias.
Imagine a workplace where women enthusiastically and happily support each other. A workplace without manipulation and victimization, without passive aggressive behaviors, where bullying is practically nonexistent. It is a subject Bonnie Low-Kramen been studying for a long time because that one fact alone can make or break us in the workplace. Together, we need to build a "new normal" that will happen when we are keenly aware of the invisible default button and it will depend on our commitment to shut it off. Bonnie will show you how.
Bonnie Low-Kramen advocates a new and better way for women to help one another succeed not only because it is the right thing to do but because it is smart business, not to mention a whole lot more fun.
Why should you Attend:
The data is clear that women make excellent leaders and we know that a diverse workplace is a stronger and better workplace. Even so, we know that women can behave badly to one another as they get sucked into the "default" behaviors that we learn as young girls.
We can fast-track the process of women becoming successful leaders by shining a light on what is stopping women from being ambitious and achieving their highest goals.
Areas Covered in the Session:
Who Will Benefit:
- To see the Women in their life with new eyes and to Begin the process of Mentoring
- To reject the old Stereotypes of how women should Behave with one Another
- To devise a new Plan of how Women can interact with one Another
- HR Director
- HR Associates
- Company Managers
For 25 years, Bonnie Low-Kramen worked as the Personal Assistant to Oscar winner Olympia Dukakis and now travels the world educating, empowering, and inspiring. In May, 2019, Bonnie’s work was featured as a Forbes cover story. As the bestselling author of Be the Ultimate Assistant and the founder of Ultimate Assistant Training, she is one of the most respected leaders in the administrative profession. Bonnie is a columnist for Executive Secretary Magazine and is at the center of the movements to end workplace bullying and to close the wage gap. Named 2015 Educator of the Year by DEMA, the Domestic Estate Managers Association, Bonnie is known for her passionate commitment to be a catalyst for positive change in the global workplace. To date, she has spoken and taught in 14 countries. Clients include Starbucks, Amazon, PwC, AMC Entertainment, Dell, and MasterCard. Bonnie co-hosts the “Be the Ultimate Assistant Podcast” with Vickie Sokol Evans where they tackle the burning workplace issues. With trademark honesty and humor, she pulls the curtain back so that we can all lean in and excel at the very highest levels. Bonnie holds a BA from Rutgers University. A native New Jerseyan turned Floridian, Bonnie believes that you can’t be it if you can’t see it. She helps her audiences to see what is really happening in our modern workplace so that they can change the world.